A stranger complimented us by saying we should teach a co-parenting class after divorce

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The compliment caught me off guard. I was attending the high school graduation of one my kids recently and another parent approached me, unsolicited.

“You and your ex-wife should teach a class on co-parenting after divorce.”

I had just given one of the parent speeches in which I publicly thanked my son’s mom and stepdad for being such great influences in our son’s life.

It’s true, my ex-wife and I cooperate extensively for our kids. We do holidays and birthdays together. We adjust schedules whenever needed. We attend parent-teacher conferences as a team. I even took her and her husband’s…

Why everyone’s so scared

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I recently saw a meme that said, “If you never whipped, enslaved, or massacred anyone personally, why hide the history of those who did… unless it still matters.”

We’ve all seen the fury around critical race theory these past few months. Texas banning its teaching in schools. White folks in large numbers outraged that any part of it — whatever it is — be taught to us or our kids.

Forget that most of the complainers haven’t taken the time to read any scholarly papers or serious articles on the topic. …

The stars and stripes of racism

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Independence Day for me as a kid was always a joyous occasion. Beautiful red, white, and blue flags everywhere. Burgers and hot dogs. Lighting sparklers. Sitting on blankets in a field watching fireworks. Columbus Clippers baseball games.

And of course, Lee Greenwood’s “God Bless The U.S.A.

And I’m proud to be an American

Where at least I know I’m free…

Most of us know the lyrics, but not all of us get them.

We were taught early on in our youth to love the light of the world, the United States of America. …

How to use personal trauma to practice empathy of others


I had just watched the first episode of the new series, Them, and texted one of my closest friends Ryan about it.

“Have you seen the new show, Them. Holy shit.”

Ryan is a Black male. I’m a white Jewish guy.

His response shouldn’t have caught me off guard, but it did.

“I can’t watch it. Too triggering.”

For those who haven’t seen the show, it’s a harrowing account of a Black family, one of millions, who migrated from the Jim Crow laws and pervasive racism of the South to…

It’s About Understanding and Trust

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Do-gooders have come out of the woodwork since the tragic murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, and others.

For most of us fighting for social and racial justice, it’s a welcome and long overdue awakening. Black and brown people have waited years for a national outcry like this. For people to take to the streets. Protest. Speak up. Vote. Never in the United States’ two and a half centuries of existence has there been this level of simultaneous compassion and outrage. It’s a great renewal of the civil rights activity of the 1960s.

The intent of these millions…

Respecting Jews and Palestinians

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In 1975, the then Soviet Union, along with its numerous Arab allies and client states, passed a resolution at the United Nations labeling the Jewish national movement known as Zionism racist. It was a low point in modern Israel’s young history, but it didn’t really take in the U.S. Most Americans knew better.

Almost fifty years after that resolution, things seem a bit different. During this latest flare-up of tensions and death and destruction between Israel and Palestine, social media in America is abuzz with quite the onslaught of anti-Semitic outbursts.

“Hitler should’ve finished off the…

The challenges of intersectionality

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Ayun had just walked into synagogue to attend Rosh Hashanah services in Boston. Her co-religionists greeted her with a few smiles and Jewish New Year greetings, but it didn’t take long for the conversations to turn from welcoming to a barrage of questions about how Ayun could be Jewish. A few “where are you froms,” as if she couldn’t be American with her Asian features. A few questions about whether she was with a Jewish partner, implying she couldn’t be Jewish herself. A few “Are you with a friend?” questions. Notably, a lot of the questions came from a loving…

The Simple Solution to Ending Racial and Ethnic Strife

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In my racial justice work and efforts to eradicate unconscious bias against Black and Brown people in America, I developed a method I call “End Racial Distancing,” a play-off of our last year-plus of social distancing amid the global coronavirus pandemic.

I didn’t invent this simple concept. In addition to its common sense, I read a poem written by then grad student and young Jewish woman Molly Zeff, called “It’s Just Dinner,” that shined a bright light on the idea.

Here’s the earth-shattering concept Molly’s poem artfully posited: If Jews and Arabs just started with sharing a meal together —…

Time for Mutual Recognition


Across the pond here in the U.S., many see the recent unrest, violence, terror, death and destruction in Israel and Palestine as another typical round in the cycle of he-said-she-said that has plagued the two peoples for nearly a century.

For most Israelis and Jews worldwide, it’s the violence and terror Israelis face. The rain of rockets from terror groups like Hamas and Islamic Jihad. It’s about the Jews’ right to live on their original indigenous land they were kicked out of so many times and could finally return to. To prevent another Holocaust from ever…

The one hatred that doesn’t get canceled

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Pepé Le Pew, the misogynist feline-groping cartoon character that Dave Chapelle once joked about when he turned on the cartoon for his nephew, “Good god, what kind of fucking rapist is this guy,” is now gone. Canceled because of its contribution to offensive ideas about disrespect and abuse of women. I vaguely recall seeing the creepy, smelly skunk as a kid, but since then I hadn’t thought much about it. So I went back and watched a few episodes online.

There he was, Pepé physically pushing himself onto the reluctant cat Penelope. The cat is frightened. She tells the skunk…

Jeffrey Kass

Thought-Leader On Race, Society, and Culture | Award-Winning Author | Speaker | Trainer | Lawyer | Latest Book: The Rona Diaries. One World. Two Pandemics.

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